Start with one true thing. A small image. The way they answered the phone, the meal they always cooked, the joke they always told. The grand themes come from one small image, not the other way around.

You will. The room expects it. Pause, breathe, take a sip of water. Most people who say they cannot get through it, do. We help you write something short enough that you can.

Eulogy writer

Help writing the eulogy.

A eulogy is small in length and enormous in meaning. Stillwith helps you draft one in plain words, in your voice. Free to begin.

Draft yours in 5 minutes Read the full guide

How long should a eulogy be?

The short answer: about five to seven minutes, which works out to 700 to 1,000 words. Most rooms can hold that length of attention without the speaker losing their nerve. If you have only two minutes in you, two minutes is enough. The audience is not measuring. They are with you.

A eulogy is not a complete biography. It is one or two true things, told well. Stillwith nudges you to find the small, specific moment that opens into the larger meaning, the way the best eulogies do.

How do I start?

Start with one image, one small thing only your family knows. Stillwith asks a few gentle questions: How did they answer the phone? What did the kitchen smell like? What was the joke they always told? From those answers, a first draft assembles itself in under a minute. You edit, rearrange, replace.

You do not have to use the AI. Every screen also accepts a blank page. Some families use our questions as conversation prompts at the dinner table instead.

What if I cry?

You probably will. The room expects it and the room will wait. If you are worried about getting through it, write something shorter. Stillwith offers a short version and a long version of your eulogy, side by side. You can switch between them at the lectern.

What if I don't know what to say?

That is the most common reason families come to Stillwith. The mind goes quiet at exactly the moment it most needs words. We ask small, patient questions about who they were. The answers gather. By the end of the session, you have a draft, plus a list of stories you may want to tell separately at the reception.

Sample, from Helen Brennan

If you spent any time at our mother's table, you know two things. The first is that you would not leave hungry. The second is that she would ask you the kind of question that made you put down your fork. She wanted to know how you really were. And she would wait for the answer.

See the full sample memorial

app.stillwith.io/eulogy

Question 3 of 7

What is one small thing only your family would know about them?

She kept every thank-you letter from the pediatric ward in a shoebox in the hall closet.

Draft, updating

In the hall closet of the house on Linden Street, there is a shoebox. Inside the shoebox are thirty-one years of thank-you letters from mothers whose children my mother took care of...

Draft yours in 5 minutes

The hardest part is starting. We make the first sentence easy.

Begin a memorial