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Phone numbers, scripts, checklists, customs. Vetted. Free. No affiliate links, no sponsored content. We list these because grieving families have told us they helped.
Right now
It is 11 p.m. and the news is still fresh. Phone numbers, text lines, and people who answer.
For the service
Practical pages for the days leading up to the funeral or memorial.
Reading the eulogy out loud
A five-minute companion for the moment at the lectern. Breathing, pacing, what to do if you cry.
Cultural and religious customs
What to expect, what to wear, what to say at services across eight traditions. Written for the visitor.
Memorial donations in lieu of flowers
How to phrase the ask, how to set up a tribute fund, and ten categories of charities families often choose.
After the service
Legal steps, templates, and what to do in the first ninety days.
For others
For friends and coworkers who want to show up well for a grieving family.
How to support a grieving friend
What to do, what to say, what not to say. A guide for friends, neighbors, and coworkers.
Care package suggestions
Practical things to send when you do not know what to send. Three budgets, four categories, and a do-not-send list.
What not to say
Eight phrases that sting, why they sting, and what to say instead. For the well-meaning friend who wants to help.
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